If you put any kind of 125 in then it looks and smells like group!!
So you believe that individual policies, in any flavor, cannot be offered under a 125 plan. Is that correct?
As for the other flap, about state vs fed, NHS is correct. States regulate insurance and are free to pass their own laws. COBRA is one example. Each state can pass COBRA qualifying legislation and are permitted to make their laws broader (but not more stringent) than federal law.
COBRA only affects groups of 20 or more employees, but most states have small group laws that extend COBRA rights to fewer than 20.