nyc2phi,
If I may ask... are YOU sold on life insurance? What I hear from you sounds like my kids when they were younger and told to shower - they knew they had to but they just did it to get mom and dad off their backs. A little later on they maybe thought it was all right but... Now, at least one knows the benefits of staying clean - he's sold on the concept.
Where are you?
My suggestion is to first dig into what your carrier has to offer and get a real feel for the benefits.
As far as how to approach these clients, the advice above is top-notch. Even if you ignore what I'm saying you are likely to reap some sales just by following their suggestions. However, you'll do yourself and your clients a huge favor once you understand the real value are bringing to them.
Andy
It's too bad there's not a function for this forum to save wise pieces of gold like this to a personal notes section in their profile, or their blog. I have seen other forums with this function.