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[Newby]

The funeral home we used is corp, part of Dignity. Use to be locally owed, the one my grandfather recommended to his white clients when he ran a debt (yeah sorry, its the South and this was the 50s - 70s). The one for my other relatives appear to be locally owned, rural area.

I think really the timing was more us than them. They were ready to go as fast as we wanted. Also we paid cash for everything. I reimbursed myself with the insurance proceeds for my mother and grandmother.

Some of it can be regional too. Somethings that are the norm in one area are not normal in another area.

Rouse mentioned his area doing a lot of evening funerals these days. The first time I ever worked with funeral homes over in eastern Tennessee I was shocked that they did that. There are no evening funerals in my area. Not ever.

Another thing that was different was that in eastern Tennessee families did not bring food in to the funeral home during visitations. They will meet for a meal after the funeral but not at the funeral home during the visitation. In my area when you go to a funeral it's almost like going to Thanksgiving dinner. During the visitation they will be buckets of chicken, meat trays, pies and cakes, etc. The funeral home has to have an employee there to receive food just like receiving flowers.

It's my understanding that eastern Tennessee does not do that. At least 10 or 12 years ago when I was over there they didn't.

 

[VolAgent]

Some of it can be regional too. Somethings that are the norm in one area are not normal in another area.

Rouse mentioned his area doing a lot of evening funerals these days. The first time I ever worked with funeral homes over in eastern Tennessee I was shocked that they did that. There are no evening funerals in my area. Not ever.

Another thing that was different was that in eastern Tennessee families did not bring food in to the funeral home during visitations. They will meet for a meal after the funeral but not at the funeral home during the visitation. In my area when you go to a funeral it's almost like going to Thanksgiving dinner. During the visitation they will be buckets of chicken, meat trays, pies and cakes, etc. The funeral home has to have an employee there to receive food just like receiving flowers.

It's my understanding that eastern Tennessee does not do that. At least 10 or 12 years ago when I was over there they didn't.

I never attended a funeral in East TN. I went to one viewing, but we didn't go to her actual funeral.

We didn't do a viewing for my grandmother or mother, neither wanted one. There was a reception afterwards, but no one brought food, we had it catered.

For my relatives in Southeast Missouri, their church hosted a reception afterwards and provided the food. For my cousin it was kind of weird. His church wasn't large enough to host family at a reception, so one of the other churches stepped up and offered to do so.

 

[WinoBlues]

In my area when you go to a funeral it's almost like going to Thanksgiving dinner. During the visitation they will be buckets of chicken, meat trays, pies and cakes, etc. The funeral home has to have an employee there to receive food just like receiving flowers.

Outside of Hmong funerals, which are 3 days to a couple week long affairs, I have never seen anything like that. Sounds kinda nice.

 

[KRobby]

In my area when you go to a funeral it's almost like going to Thanksgiving dinner. During the visitation they will be buckets of chicken, meat trays, pies and cakes, etc.

That's how ours have always been. And a few coolers of beer. When the beer's gone, we'll head to a nearby restaurant.

 

[WinoBlues]

That's how ours have always been. And a few coolers of beer. When the beer's gone, we'll head to a nearby restaurant.

Are these in the funeral halls or a seperate room?

 

[KRobby]

Are these in the funeral halls or a seperate room?

Separate room, but at the funeral hall. The feast is after all the viewing and services.

 

[WinoBlues]

Separate room, but at the funeral hall. The feast is after all the viewing and services.

Got it.

More common here that there is food and drink in a rented hall or someone's home.

Thanks

 

[Newby]

Are these in the funeral halls or a seperate room?

Each funeral hall (we call them funeral chapel) has to have it's own kitchenette in our part of the world. So if one funersl home has 3- chapels there must be three kitchenettes so one family isn't eating the food of s different funeral's family.

 

[WinoBlues]

Each funeral hall (we call them funeral chapel) has to have it's own kitchenette in our part of the world. So if one funersl home has 3- chapels there must be three kitchenettes so one family isn't eating the food of s different funeral's family.

I have not seen that here. Different regions I guess.

 

[WinoBlues]

Very common in my area that there is a funeral at the Church or Funeral Home followed by a graveside service as well. Followed by a reception at some other place. Makes for a long day. Not counting the viewing of and or Rosery.

Initially I understood you guys as saying there was food at the service. I am envisioning aunt Mary surrounded by paper plates of KFC and red cups.