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I am not a strong supporter of custodial care in the home. When I was selling LTC I use to hear "My children love me, they would never let me go to a nursing home".
That is a tough objection to deal with. You don't want to tell them "not that much" but more often than not the situation ends up being what you described. One person will do all the work and the others just stand by.
I came up with a response to that objection that seemed to work quite well for me. When a prospect said, "My children love me..." I would respond with, "I'm sure they do, but I love my children, I would never put them in a position of having to destroy their quality of life tending to me and having to change my dirty diapers."
I firmly believe that. If I ever get to the point where I can't take care of myself I want to be in a place where they pay people to do that. I would never expect a family member to have to do that.
The first time I said that to a prospect, she looked at me and said, "I never thought of it like that". I walked out with a signed app and a check.
When I was selling LTC I had the option of adding home health care, adult day care, assisted living but very rarely recommended those things be added to the policy. The requirement for receiving benefits were the same ADL's that were required to qualify for a nursing home. If someone can't transfer, feed or dress themselves etc then I am of the opinion that they need to be in a nursing home or be in a place where they receive 24 hour care if it is going to destroy a family members quality of life.
At that point the "quality of life" in my life has pretty much ended. Why drag other family members lives down with me?
Any one of us, at any time could get in a wreck and end up being a cucumber. How many of you would want your spouse or children to have to take care of you for the next x number of years even if a "professional" came in a few hours of the day? Not me.
I encouraged prospects to save their money, not spend it on the "bells and whistles" portion and purchase a nursing home policy with a high enough benefit that, if they ever had to go, would pay for a place that was like a five star hotel.
I know all the agruments as to why the "bells and whistles" "should" be added, however, most of them boil down to a higher premium that results in a larger commission.
I strongly advocate nursing home coverage for everyone. We are all living longer but not necessarily healthy. Because of advances in medicine, a lot of people who would have died fifty years ago are living longer now but are they really living, or just existing.
That is a tough objection to deal with. You don't want to tell them "not that much" but more often than not the situation ends up being what you described. One person will do all the work and the others just stand by.
I came up with a response to that objection that seemed to work quite well for me. When a prospect said, "My children love me..." I would respond with, "I'm sure they do, but I love my children, I would never put them in a position of having to destroy their quality of life tending to me and having to change my dirty diapers."
I firmly believe that. If I ever get to the point where I can't take care of myself I want to be in a place where they pay people to do that. I would never expect a family member to have to do that.
The first time I said that to a prospect, she looked at me and said, "I never thought of it like that". I walked out with a signed app and a check.
When I was selling LTC I had the option of adding home health care, adult day care, assisted living but very rarely recommended those things be added to the policy. The requirement for receiving benefits were the same ADL's that were required to qualify for a nursing home. If someone can't transfer, feed or dress themselves etc then I am of the opinion that they need to be in a nursing home or be in a place where they receive 24 hour care if it is going to destroy a family members quality of life.
At that point the "quality of life" in my life has pretty much ended. Why drag other family members lives down with me?
Any one of us, at any time could get in a wreck and end up being a cucumber. How many of you would want your spouse or children to have to take care of you for the next x number of years even if a "professional" came in a few hours of the day? Not me.
I encouraged prospects to save their money, not spend it on the "bells and whistles" portion and purchase a nursing home policy with a high enough benefit that, if they ever had to go, would pay for a place that was like a five star hotel.
I know all the agruments as to why the "bells and whistles" "should" be added, however, most of them boil down to a higher premium that results in a larger commission.
I strongly advocate nursing home coverage for everyone. We are all living longer but not necessarily healthy. Because of advances in medicine, a lot of people who would have died fifty years ago are living longer now but are they really living, or just existing.