They tell you don't worry about getting money back? That is very odd, would make me think they were in on it.
I got a guy about a grand back a few months ago. Guy replaced my Aetna with Trans. Wrote him as female.
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Hate to comment on an older post but it brought back a memory for me. When I first started selling on the phone, I had someone tell me Male but they identified as female.
My boss just shrugged and said write it as what they identify as. So female it was.