Lorraine, I am sorry that you welcome here hasn't been warmer. This place tends to have a pack mentality, and if a respected member has something critical to say, others see that as a free pass to pile on. My wife is a teacher, and during the summer months I also take family days from time to time.
In the interest of accuracy, let's review. A 21-year old happily married young lady with 4 children started a thread called "Trying to Hold On". Before you can "hold on" to something, you first need to actually "take hold" of the thing you're wanting to hold on to.
Apparently, the past couple of months have been occupied by children, gardening, family, and vacations... all good stuff.
I responded with my opinion concerning her plea for help and mentoring in light of how she chose to spend her time of late.
Others posted after I did, and the consensus was similar to my thoughts. Being that this person is 8 years younger than my youngest child, I would never be mean to her for the sake of being mean. By the same token, I'll show her respect by NOT treating her differently "because she's a girl".
Her follow-up posts showed a degree of immaturity and lack of desire to learn from those more experienced.
And then you chimed in about pack mentality and all the mean posters who like to torment the innocent and pull wings off butterflies and other horrid things. Since when did it become "mean" to be straight with someone?
But I didn't see you offer her any constructive advice concerning her request for help and advice.